Do you want a laugh

Yesterday I made the trip half way to pick up my girls after a night with daddy at his new house.

The girls were upset because 'daddy was very stressed' not too sure whether at 3 and 6 you can understand stress. But I guess there must have been some vibes.

Earlier in the day I'd sorted out yet another pile of paperwork and found the MOT certificate for his car. So I'd taken it along and reminded him that the car insurance was still in my name and he needed to sort it out....oh and by the way, had he added his girlfriend. No...so she's driving with no insurance...I guess so, was the answer.

Later as I was putting my eldest to bed she just hapened to mention that the girlfriend had taken them out for a drive as daddy was a bit grumpy.

Bearing in mind I am not exactly happy that a 19 yr old is driving my girls around in any case. A 19yr old driving them around witout insurance was just a little too much to bear.

So I get's to work this morning to find an email asking if the girls are OK ....... clearly the weekend had been a bit odd.

No I said, they were up most of the night....they tell me you were grumpy and stressed.....and Why was your girlfriend driving them anywhere? And tell me about the insurance.

Oh, says he. I'm finding it tough having them to stay. Maybe they should just come for the day.....here we go I think. As for driving the girls, it wasn't very far. Like tell that to PC Plod when he stops her.

Sort it out! And quick. And do not let her drive them around again. And if it is so difficult having your children for one night every two weeks, ask yourself why?

There are times when I wonder who is more grown up, the girls or their daddy.

Well as the weeks progress life, though lonely, is starting to have a pattern.

His nibs still bleats on via email. I did point out that admitting he was sacked from his old job on his email account on day one of his employment with his new company might be a bit silly. Let's face it in these Big Brother days, most organisations have some degree of email monitoring.

Still I guess he must know that. This weeks little gems have included the now regular Monday morning 'I want to come back' - dream on sunshine. This week however, a new twist. How would it be if he asked the children if he should come back? If they said yes he'd get some help for his behaviour.....No, No, No!!!!

How cruel to even think about asking two little things. They're just about coming to terms with what is going on and whilst there are still lots of questions (Did daddy know [new girlfriend's name] before he left us mummy?) they are doing ust about fine.

Night time visits are becoming less frequent and they continue to sleep better.....more than can be said for mum.

The buy out of the house has finally gone through. A great relief on one hand, and totally freaky on the other as I come to terms with quite how much debt I am taking on. Still as a very good friend on mine explained to me, being scared and optimistic is a sign of courage...well I'll hang on to that thought.

So his nibs now has enough cash, how did he put it? 'To go round the world for 10 yrs or so' Friends in Oz have already said they don't want him heading in their direction....who knows.

Before I sign off one other little gem. Tomorrow I drive halfway to his new place because it's too far for the poor dear to drive to pick up his kids.....would I mind getting him some ear drops because he's got ear ache!!! I jest not. I couldn't bring myself to respond...the firewall at my client's site would not have coped with the language!

Those of you who've been following the blog may indeed be feelign a little disappointed that there hasn't been more drama. Sorry.

As things calm down and life gets back to normal, there is little point in relaying what I've had for dinner. Or what's on tv.

Things are getting better....the girls are slowly starting to sleep through. And this mummy is beginning to feel like there is light at the end of the tunnel.

So what of the last few days?

His nibs did see the girls at the weekend. But not before he'd dropped off his older daughter - that's daughter not the girlfriend - to go along to a birthday party with my two. They were so excited to see her which was fantastic.....though their dad was a bit miffed. 'What about saying hi to me?' he asked. 'Oh, yeah. .... Hi dad' and then they dashed off to share news and new toys as three little girls would.

He's still after his money but the degree of urgency is a little less since he has got a job. Talking of which, the silly devil had the contract sent through to the email address he'd used when he was here. So yours truly has a soft copy tucked away. We'll see if the references they have asked for come through and if he can get through the 6 month probation period without casting an eye at some other young lady in the office.

I feel this story is not over yet. Though thankfully, the girls and I will simply be observers from now on.

Today was interesting. He called to say had his new credit card turned up. New credit card I asked. If you've ordered one why have you not had it sent to the address you live at? Quick chat with the solicitor helped me to understand. I had no idea you had to live somewhere for a number of months before you can get one.

When it arrives I'll pop it in the bin.