I know and I feel a bit bad about that. She is so young and why should she have to go through all that shit?
So she targetted a married man.....that's not good. But I'm sure she never expected the otcome that she now has. You can probably hear her friends telling her to dump him...but she's stuck with him as he has nowhere to go t more…
your ex is weak. I read an article in an american mag recently about couples splitting up and where one of the couple would try and poison the kids against the other. it was found that it was always the emotionally weak partner who did this, in order to try and justify himself and his actions. I am not suggesting that he will try and poison your ki more…
Bitterness would eat anyone up and as for the kids, whatever he has done or does in the future it is really important to me that they still have a relationship with him. Regardless of how I feel he is and always will be their daddy.
I just pray that his current level of interest in them rema more…
17 wifelettes! well, I don't blame you for not wanting him back. It will be tough for the kids though. Good luck with it all. You seem very strong. I know it is none of my business, but remember that being bitter towards him harms you more than it hurts him, and the kids need to know that their dad ain't all bad. more…
The answer was no way....but I guess he was getting his kicks anyway without my help.
Chances are he is living on another planet and wants to play happy families when it suits and forget all about them when he has his 'needs'......on the faith front, he is currently considering beco more…
erm....just out of curiousity, and please tell me if I am completely out of order here, has hubby ever mentioned swinging as a hobby ?
I know it may appear a bolt from the blue, but I think you would find it amazing the number of men who it appeals to, especially those who are beginning to find themselves in a mid life crisis.
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And frankly the victim mentality comes from knowing that they did wrong and not taking responsibility for their actions. Something he has very rarely done....it is always someone else's fault. The joke this time being that it is my fault he strayed....had it been just the once then maybe more…
I have to say please dont tar us all with the same brush.
I think if a man treats a woman that way or a woman treats a man for that matter, then they are the scum of the earth. They deserve to be be treated with disdain and dont deserve to be given the time of day. As you can see I have been there done that, but obviously I'm not bitt more…
After too many years of putting up with his coming and going and finally refusing to let him back...I now get 'well there was obviously something wrong with us to have made me shag someone else!'
And like you say, when the total attention shifts from them to children they can't han more…
Why not rub salt in the wounds. Cut up any remaining clothes, parcel them nicely in brown paper and send them through the post.
Then send a needle and thread in a seperate parcel with sewing instructions for his little wifelette, just in case she hasn't done this weeks homework and there isnt a teacher to help her, and then get yoursel more…
This isn't about pouring it out....the story has been told many times...and sadly will be in the future... it is quite funny once I can get it together to write it down.
Call it mid life crisis call it sad but true, some guys can't deal with havin kids.
And us girls get to pick up the pieces...as my 3 yr old tells me " boys ar more…
This isn't about pouring it out....the story has been told many times...and sadly will be in the future... it is quite funny once I can get it together to write it down.
Call it mid life crisis call it sad but true, some guys can't deal with havin kids.
And us girls get to pick up the pieces...as my 3 yr old tells me " boys ar more…
I'd say sorry, but sorry probably isn't the word you actually want to hear right now. I've went through something similar in the past and it is devastating, but tough as it is to say, eventually you DO bounce back.
Having somewhere to pour out your feelings is good, so a blog is ideal, especially the anonymity, I'm sure things will tur more…
Recent comments (30)
In response to: "This just gets more bizzare" 865 days old
by myriad1965 [Member]
Come on!!! October 2005!!!
I know what I'm going through is madness but hey, you can move on.
There is much more to life than this.
My two will get through this as will I. Eventually we will laugh about it. Do you remember when......
more…
In response to: "This just gets more bizzare" 865 days old
by subville [Member]
I've been going through some of this too *hug* we split in Oct '05 xxx more…
In response to: "This just gets more bizzare" 876 days old
by la_spice [Member]
You're handling things just right - don't come between the children and their dad - it will pay dividends in the long run :yes:
Use the time on your own for some pampering :yes: and play some favourite music to stop you feeling like you've suddenly gone deaf :)) more…
In response to: "Here's to a weekend of mixed emotions" 877 days old
by la_spice [Member]
Thinking of you - you'll be fine in the end :D more…
In response to: "Goodness will he ever give up" 881 days old
by myriad1965 [Member]
I know and I feel a bit bad about that. She is so young and why should she have to go through all that shit?
So she targetted a married man.....that's not good. But I'm sure she never expected the otcome that she now has. You can probably hear her friends telling her to dump him...but she's stuck with him as he has nowhere to go t more…
In response to: "Goodness will he ever give up" 881 days old
by la_spice [Member]
His new girlfriend will learn the hard way. :yes: more…
In response to: "Does life get better from now?" 881 days old
by banana Pro
Good to hear from you again and that you feel so positive. Take care more…
In response to: "Does life get better from now?" 882 days old
by la_spice [Member]
Stay strong :yes: more…
In response to: "" 889 days old
by sula36 [Member]
your ex is weak. I read an article in an american mag recently about couples splitting up and where one of the couple would try and poison the kids against the other. it was found that it was always the emotionally weak partner who did this, in order to try and justify himself and his actions. I am not suggesting that he will try and poison your ki more…
In response to: "If I wasn't stronger I'd start thinking I was mad" 889 days old
by banana Pro
Hello again,
poor you :(
Here's a link I found a while back when trying to cheer my teenage son up.
http://www.soyouvebeendumped.com/
The 'dump lines' are particularly amusing.
Not sure what to say except - take care of yourself and do something nice for yourself at least once a day - more…
In response to: "" 889 days old
by myriad1965 [Member]
Gosh I totally agree with you.
Bitterness would eat anyone up and as for the kids, whatever he has done or does in the future it is really important to me that they still have a relationship with him. Regardless of how I feel he is and always will be their daddy.
I just pray that his current level of interest in them rema more…
In response to: "If I wasn't stronger I'd start thinking I was mad" 889 days old
by [Visitor]
Hmmmm, seems this ex of yours doesn't know what he wants or why he wants it. Best shot methinks more…
In response to: "" 889 days old
by sula36 [Member]
17 wifelettes! well, I don't blame you for not wanting him back. It will be tough for the kids though. Good luck with it all. You seem very strong. I know it is none of my business, but remember that being bitter towards him harms you more than it hurts him, and the kids need to know that their dad ain't all bad. more…
In response to: "It's not getting any easier to feel sorry for this guy" 891 days old
by banana Pro
Hello,
I just started reading your blog. Oh goodness me. What to say?
You seem to be coping fantastically well under the circumstances.
Dare I say that it sounds like you might be better off without the stupid twit?
I was once in a relationship with someone I now refer to as 'the dollop'. He ne more…
In response to: "It's not getting any easier to feel sorry for this guy" 891 days old
by myriad1965 [Member]
So I got that one right?
If it wasn't so bloody sad it really would be laughable. So tempted to send a draft script to Eastenders.....
Ian Beale? more…
In response to: "It's not getting any easier to feel sorry for this guy" 891 days old
by [Visitor]
How about:
'SOD OFF YOU STUPID MAN! YOU'VE BROUGHT THIS ON YOURSELF. GET A JOB AND SORT YOURSELF OUT !
Seems fair to me
Wayne more…
In response to: "" 894 days old
by [Visitor]
Wow am I psychic or what. Must be my male mentality. You need any more answers just ask LOL :) more…
In response to: "" 894 days old
by myriad1965 [Member]
Actually yes he did....some time ago....
The answer was no way....but I guess he was getting his kicks anyway without my help.
Chances are he is living on another planet and wants to play happy families when it suits and forget all about them when he has his 'needs'......on the faith front, he is currently considering beco more…
In response to: "" 894 days old
by [Visitor]
erm....just out of curiousity, and please tell me if I am completely out of order here, has hubby ever mentioned swinging as a hobby ?
I know it may appear a bolt from the blue, but I think you would find it amazing the number of men who it appeals to, especially those who are beginning to find themselves in a mid life crisis.
< more…
In response to: "" 896 days old
by myriad1965 [Member]
I don't as I said not all men are bastards....
And frankly the victim mentality comes from knowing that they did wrong and not taking responsibility for their actions. Something he has very rarely done....it is always someone else's fault. The joke this time being that it is my fault he strayed....had it been just the once then maybe more…
In response to: "" 896 days old
by [Visitor]
I have to say please dont tar us all with the same brush.
I think if a man treats a woman that way or a woman treats a man for that matter, then they are the scum of the earth. They deserve to be be treated with disdain and dont deserve to be given the time of day. As you can see I have been there done that, but obviously I'm not bitt more…
In response to: "" 897 days old
by myriad1965 [Member]
You know what.....I'm beginning to feel that there are much more of these guys around than I had realised.
Now I'm not an 'all men are bastards' kind of girl. Really. But some do seem to have tendancies in that direction.
You note made me laugh. Yes its is apparently all my fault. He wasn't getting the attention he need more…
In response to: "" 897 days old
by alicekate [Member]
My ex and your's...are they related?????
After too many years of putting up with his coming and going and finally refusing to let him back...I now get 'well there was obviously something wrong with us to have made me shag someone else!'
And like you say, when the total attention shifts from them to children they can't han more…
In response to: "" 899 days old
by myriad1965 [Member]
Why bother.
Strikes me she's bitten of a bit more than she realised.
Let them stew.
The lack of reaction appears to be causing enough of a stir right now.
Love the thought though. more…
In response to: "" 899 days old
by [Visitor]
Why not rub salt in the wounds. Cut up any remaining clothes, parcel them nicely in brown paper and send them through the post.
Then send a needle and thread in a seperate parcel with sewing instructions for his little wifelette, just in case she hasn't done this weeks homework and there isnt a teacher to help her, and then get yoursel more…
In response to: "" 903 days old
by la_spice [Member]
I've just read your blog and it's history repeating itself. Keep strong - you'll be fine.
Marian more…
In response to: "" 903 days old
by [Visitor]
She who laughs last, laughs longest and loudest. more…
In response to: "" 904 days old
by myriad1965 [Member]
This isn't about pouring it out....the story has been told many times...and sadly will be in the future... it is quite funny once I can get it together to write it down.
Call it mid life crisis call it sad but true, some guys can't deal with havin kids.
And us girls get to pick up the pieces...as my 3 yr old tells me " boys ar more…
In response to: "" 904 days old
by myriad1965 [Member]
This isn't about pouring it out....the story has been told many times...and sadly will be in the future... it is quite funny once I can get it together to write it down.
Call it mid life crisis call it sad but true, some guys can't deal with havin kids.
And us girls get to pick up the pieces...as my 3 yr old tells me " boys ar more…
In response to: "" 905 days old
by [Visitor]
I'd say sorry, but sorry probably isn't the word you actually want to hear right now. I've went through something similar in the past and it is devastating, but tough as it is to say, eventually you DO bounce back.
Having somewhere to pour out your feelings is good, so a blog is ideal, especially the anonymity, I'm sure things will tur more…